Living in this fast track digital world, often distracts us from our sense of direction. No fault of technology, it's a simple choice that carries powerful consequences. Multitasking has become the norm for many, and has lead many to drown in a problem-solving mentality, neglecting the priorities that would prevent many problems. Many are ignorant of their loss of direction, consumed by the details of life, and forgetting the direction of life. Don't lose your direction in life, many may be lost forever. You are a leader, people are following you. Stay focused on the primary responsibilities of your life, devote yourself to your primary calling in life. Remain calm, keep focus, don't stress, stay within your limitations, and live in the right direction. Confidence and sense of direction creates great leaders and teachers. Don't be distracted, your life can be of great help for many.

It's tragic to believe that there's no purpose for certain events that take place during your life. The thought of ones self having the power to deem events right or wrong is a selfish one. Do you think you would ever deem those painful and tough events right for you? Would you ever determine a time in life when they would be welcomed and accepted? No one is standing on the mountain top screaming for trails and tough times to come their way. There's a lot we can participate in now a days. Most pick and choose what they feel will make them happy. Most base decisions on emotional satisfaction, not character value. Every thought, every choice, every decision, every response, and every act is an opportunity to participate in building relationships that create an environment that welcomes growth. So here's the challenge. Are all the things you're participating in building relationships that create an environment that welcomes growth and encouragement? Life is full of amazing opportunities, they all require obedience, sacrifice, patience, and committed effort. Don't miss them, they arrive every day, encouraging you to participate

What's your life constructing? Or are you just a discouraging spectator?

When making a decision, any decision, its wise to always consider the source of each option being entertained. Who and where do you collect information from? The source of information is a life and death matter, treat it as such. From the source we develop goals, goals determine motives, and motives empower our actions and behavior. There's no law or rules that say it's wrong to hang out with people and have some fun. But the character of the people (source) makes a huge difference. Hanging out with people that have fun helping a home bound person with house repairs and clean up because they want to, is a good source. Hanging out with people that have fun robbing and stealing from a home bound person, not a good source.
You wouldn't accept an invitation to stroll through the woods and set up camp from a starving lion, would you? Ask a great white shark if it's safe to swim? May sound silly, but many never consider the source they base decisions on.

Allowing people or circumstances to frustrate you will cost you opportunities. Frustration causes an unstable thought process and a distracted view. Many opportunities arrive and are missed when frustration is present in ones life. It's very difficult to be persistent and confident when frustrated. You and you alone are in control of your attitude and actions, don't miss the great opportunities coming your way because someone else is frustrated because they missed theirs, refuse to allow their actions and attitudes to cause you to miss yours. Know this morning we all face opposition, tribulations, and criticism. Remind yourself each morning that you must control what you can control, and enjoy the process of that which you cannot control. Focus on what matters most this morning, know there's some awesome plans laid out for you today!

Count on having trials and opposition in this world, but don't get frustrated. We are on a journey to freedom and glory, don't be disappointed, smash frustration today!

Unpack the struggles and past crisis to help others.

Faced many things when I was young that made no sense to me, even made me angry at times. Why did my dad die so early in my life? Why did I have to work when others were playing and doing fun stuff? Why didn't I have what some other kids had? Why did I have to ride the school bus? Why did one of my best friends die when I was 9 ? Why did my family struggle to get by? Lots of questions, we were a Christian family, went to church, loved God, and gave our tithe. Why? As I grew up into an adult, I found out I still have to face struggles in life, it doesn't matter how strong a Christian I am. I can do everything right and for the right reason, I will still face struggles and have questions. The more I struggled when I was young, the more questions I had. Today I continue to struggle in areas, and I continue to have questions. But, I have grow up in many areas, I have been taught by my past struggles and questions, it's was all so I could help others! Really, it's amazing when we mature as a Christian and person. It's amazing when we stop doing and saying childish things as we become an adult Christian and person. Few things to share this morning. I now have a rejoicing spirit and not a remorseful attitude. God helped me through it all, and I'm a stronger Christian and person. I now prepare ahead for times of struggle and crisis, just because everything seems well, I keep a constant stream of communication between me and my Heavenly Father. I know struggles are ahead, I'll be better prepared by speaking with God daily. I now know that growth takes place during struggle and crisis times. I would not be the Christian or person I am today, without those struggles and questions while young. Now for maybe the most important. I have learned that the struggles, questions, and times of crisis in my life, creates opportunities for me to help others become stronger and grow up in faith and as a person. 

“All praise to the God and Father of our Master, Jesus the Messiah! Father of all mercy! God of all healing counsel! He comes alongside us when we go through hard times, and before you know it, he brings us alongside someone else who is going through hard times so that we can be there for that person just as God was there for us. We have plenty of hard times that come from following the Messiah, but no more so than the good times of his healing comfort—we get a full measure of that, too.”

‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭1:3-5‬ ‭MSG‬‬

What you've been through isn't in vain, somebody needs you today.

It's wrong when we allow ourselves to be choked by things or people that's out of our control, but it's totally unacceptable when we choke ourselves. I'm referring to anxiety when using the word "choke". It's a choice to allow things and others to choke us out, you can sit back and allow life to slowly end, or you can remove yourself from the grasp of things and others that you cannot control. But if you leave the grasp of things and others to go home and choke yourself, what have you accomplished? We all need a certain amount of healthy anxiety (realistic concern), but we must not allow real concern to get out of control and become unhealthy anxiety (worry). So how can we avoid being choked by things or others, how can we stop choking ourselves? The people you're around most will give the best answers.

1- Determine to be yourself, stay within your limits and be confident controlling what you can control.

2- Realize you control your thoughts and actions, drop the name it-blame it, your choices got you to where you are, if you don't like it, make a responsible choice.

3- Slow down, relax, rest, and remember to care for yourself, keep your hands from around your throat.

4- Live one day at a time, one moment at a time if need be, over 90% of things that make us anxious, never happen.

5- Go help someone, get your hands from around your throat and use them for something good.

6- Stop putting things off (procrastination), do it while you're able.

7- Set time limits on unhealthy anxiety (worry), if it's uncontrollable and you can't change it, don't allow it to steal away your life.

Be confident and in control of everything within your control.

"I will not ponder this issue at the present time, I refuse the unhealthy anxiety it brings. I will consider this issue at a later time, but not at this moment."

Unpack, comments help others, share your story.

One sure way to unpack a lot of junk from your thoughts and actions, make sure you focus on the value within. Don't base the value of people or circumstances just on external views or impact. When you think right, you'll see that we've all learned greater things from our pain than we've every learned from our pleasures. Stop looking at the surface only and look within. Your perspective on life will begin to change, your attitude towards others and circumstances will become positive instead of negative. By looking within the friendship, you value who they are over what they can do for you. By looking within the circumstances, you value what the circumstance will teach you over how it affects you. By looking within yourself, you value who you are becoming over what you're doing and getting. By looking within people and circumstances, you'll learn to grow apart from those who don't desire to grow at all, because you know if you're not growing you'll die early.

You don't have to adapt to the overpacked sick way of society, it's not healthy. Unpack so you can see the value within.

Being aware of what's within the boundaries of your vision and having the know how that forms a clear picture of that vision is vital to how effective you will be. This "know how" confidence allows for "I know that" confidence. When you "know that" is the proper picture, and its clear, your ideas and actions begin to produce the image you see. To live in effective confidence, the actions you take must be fully and clearly expressed, lively demonstrated, and nothing implied with hesitation. You also must have an unquestionable and unreserved trust in the desired outcome of the action chosen. Knowing what you're doing with life must be explicit (clearly expressed). Knowing how you're doing life must be implicit (absolute & unreserved).

When you know who you are and what you're suppose to be doing, effective confidence engages, and life is full of power, passion, and purpose.

It's not to late, unpack the doubt and hesitation, you can live out your dreams with effective confidence.

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