What is the first step in gaining victory over anxiety? Not eliminating it, but conquering its effects of misery. It is to limit worry, to recognize and put up barriers. This simple act will eliminate 92% of fears. To look at it with common eyes, limiting the effects of worry may leave one free from worry 92% of the time. We should tell ourselves to stop trying to figure out our own difficulties. Our first impulse is to try to account for them, figure out why it's happened, and what happened. Sometimes such an effort is beneficial: more often it is distinctly harmful. It leads to introspection, self-pity, and vain regret; and almost invariably it creates within us a dangerous mood of confusion and despair. Many of life’s hard situations cannot be explained. They can only be endured, mastered, and gradually forgotten to the best of our ability. Once we learn this truth, once we resolve to use all our energies managing life rather than trying to explain life, we take the first and greatest step toward significant accomplishments in limiting the effects of anxiety.
Is it all about the wins and losses, or is it about you manage life?